Monday, July 16, 2018

Children & Changes

When ever you have one child much less three children your life changes then and will always keep changing.  The ups and downs of being a parent can be hard at times but also filled with joy.  Children and Changes sounds like it should be a rollercoaster ride....and by the way I'm not fond of rides but anyways I'm just going to up date you on the lates with each of my children.

Let's start with the oldest......She has just signed up for her next semester at the community college.  She has decided that she doesn't want to pursue Hotel Management/Event Planning.  She changed her major to General Studies for now, that will allow her to have more classes of different things that she can explore.  She is going to take a phycology class and a sociology class.  She is leaning towards more of a social worker type of career, she wants to help people.  She doesn't have long before she will have to leave the community college and go to a major college.  She will be moving out of the student apartment that she has been in for the past year and moving into a student town home.  The rent will be a little less and there will be several roommates than what she has now but she knows them all and is super excited for the change.  She will be 21 in September.  Crazy 21!!!! I can't believe it.  She and I are planning a day down town to celebrate her birthday together.  I'm proud of who she is, a beautiful young woman with a good head on her shoulders.

Now for the middle one.....Since graduation he had been continuing his job at Walmart, working everyday from 2:00 p.m. - 11:00 p.m. with a few days off in between.  I was noticing that he wasn't doing too much until he would go into work.  I was concerned that he's sleep all day and then go to work.  But he wasn't, he was getting up around 9:00 or 10:00 and then chilling out at home watching something or playing his video games.  Then he would go to work and then come home, stay up late and then start his day over again.  When he had time off he would go hang out with his friends.  But then he apparently was not happy with working at Walmart any longer.  He came home a while back and told me that he had run into Micah and they were talking.  He said that he had asked Micah if he knew of anyone that he could work for that was into constructions, electrician, things in the nature.  Of course Micah said he could always use the help with his painting business.  Kyle wasn't opposed to it but wanted to look for something else.  Micah is a great resource when it comes to knowing people in other businesses due to his line of work.  After Kyle had told me that I realized how proud I was of him, taking the initiative to start looking because he was ready. There are so many times that boy of mine surprises me in good ways and I love it.  After talking with Kyle a little more later he expressed that he wanted to do construction or electrician work, so that took mechanic out, which is fine because he was finally narrowing things down. 

Today is his first day with an electrician.  He got up early and headed out the door.  He will work Monday - Friday from 7:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. with the weekends off.  This will work quite nicely, I I get off at 3:00, then he gets off at 4:00 and then we are all home at a good time, to cook and have dinner and enjoy our evenings.  I have met him a long time ago through Micah, so that made me very happy.  He is in his 50s and has his own small business.  Kyle had met with the guy a while back and came home super excited.  I pray that he will like it and that he will do well at it.  This can be a good things for him and its more of a career than a job or at least could turn into that.  I pray that if its not his new boss that it will be another man that he meets or works with that can come along side my son and be of good influence to him and speak into his life. 

Kyle mentioned the word that made my heart leap....moving out.  He said it won't be long now mom that I have a good job and all.  He saw the panic look in my face and said don't worry mom it won't be for a while.  I know that is the next step in his journey and its a step that needs to happen at some point but like a said being a parent is hard and all the changes it brings good or bad is not easy either.  Honestly I think he will do fine, his managing of his money is so different than his older sister.  He has quite a bit right now in the bank.  He said the other day "mom I don't do much of anything anymore and thats okay because I have money for when I do want to do something" That was a proud mom moment right there and then I look around wondering where my little boy went and see a young handsome man instead.

And then there is the youngest.....Well the latest changes with her is that she has her learners permit to learn how to drive.  That is a change that gives me anxiety, but we will make it through.  The thought of my baby growing up so fast and now will be driving.....time goes by so fast.  She will be going into the 10th grade this year.  She will turn 16 this year in December.  My baby 16!!!!  Its too much to think about at times.  She is full of life, bubbly with her smiles and her spirit is quite adventurous....which stresses me out at times.  Its all good and normal since she is young and going through each step as she grows but she is so different than my oldest daughter in the way she thinks and loves to get out about and with others.  She has been trying to heal from a stress fracture in her lower back and has been going to physical therapy.  She has missed out all summer on the summer volleyball program and that has been a bummer for her and a little hard to deal with but she has worked through it.  She has decided that she loves volleyball and wants to play but doesn't want to play with the girls that would be on her team at school, drama and not good team playing skills.  I don't blame her at all.  She says she wants to play a sport in high school, she loves all that goes with it and wants to do something.  I think she might try track this year.

When Kyle moves out one day that would leave just Sara and I.  I'm not sure how to handle that idea.  Part of me gets excited in the idea of my own room and having a normal living room area but then the other part gets a little freaked out.  There are times right now that I struggle with what to do with myself when everyone is out and about doing their own thing.  I'm not needed as much and my role has changed some.  I can and have been taking baby steps into having my own life and doing things with my friends and having a boyfriend, which is great but I still feel as if there is a hole that is empty.  I guess that is part of the phase of when your kids grow and move on their own.  I know that Sara and I will have fun together and enjoy our one on one time together.

For now I have two of them home and I will continue to enjoy them and continue to adjusting to the changes that are going on and coming.  I'm very blest with my children and so very thankful and honored that I was chosen to be their momma.


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