In the grand scheme of life sometimes the things that drive us crazy, or have us going from one end of town to the next, or just happy chaos, seem really big at the times. I was talking with someone last night briefly and we talked about our kids, when they were sports and how having 4 of them in sports was crazy. (I'm only down to one right now...Sara will start softball soon) Yes, its crazy and challenging to get each one to practice, and then trying to watch each of them play.
But I can look back and think now that all of was very small compared to the "big picture". It was no big deal and we all managed and got through it with lots of smiles, a few bruises and lots of pictures taken.
I have began to cherish and and enjoy the "mom taxi" phase......its only temporary. I enjoy my kids needing me, although I'm trying to balance out the "gotta let go" and help them move into their next phase of responsibility. My oldest daughter will be 18 next in September and a senior next school year! It's crazy how times goes so fast, gone are the days of the little girl running around easily dressed in the cutest outfits that I got to pick out. Gone is the day that my little boy wants me to rub his back while he goes to sleep....he will be 15 on Monday! Then there is my youngest daughter, she is 12 and going on 15!
I love my kids and I look forward watching them grow and change as life keeps going on around them.
So when I have to go all over the place and things are a little crazy I just remind myself that all this is temporary, so make the most of it and cherish the joys that come with the busyness.
Friday, February 20, 2015
February 10th
FAMILY
Around the holidays last year was when I knew I had to let go of how in my mind a family should look. I had to let go and embrace who we are as a family and learn to embrace and love us how we are and not how I had hoped we were to be.
All families are different but I think as long as one person in that family walks with God beside them and leans on His help, strength and wisdom that its enough of constant to bring the family together in whatever way that looks like for them.
So I've let my idol of the perfect, blended family go and now learning to get to know, care for and love the blended family that is real before me.
It hasn't been easy and is not easy and it will get harder before the good fruit can be seen but I'm standing firm in place holding Jesus' hand along the way.
Even in the waiting god can work. God can also add changes and blessings during the waiting period of another unanswered pray. God has not dismissed that He is working on the answer for me. He is just strengthening my faith.
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THE PERFECT FAMILY!! WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE?
IS IT A MOTHER THAT WATCHES HOW NO ONE SITS DOWN AT THE TABLE TOGETHER TO EAT DINNER?
IS IT WHEN EVERYONE IS SCATTERED? IS IT WHEN ALL THE KIDS ARE AT THEIR FRIENDS HOUSE ALL WEEKEND AND HARDLY HOME?
IS IT JUST THE MOTHER GOING TO CHURCH?
IS IT WHEN THE KIDS SEEM TO ONLY GO TO YOUTH GROUP?
YES! ITS ALL OF THAT AND MORE
EVERY FAMILY IS DIFFERENT AND NOT PERFECT TO THE OUTSIDE BUT PERFECT FOR THE INSIDE OF WHAT GOD IS DOING IN EACH.
Around the holidays last year was when I knew I had to let go of how in my mind a family should look. I had to let go and embrace who we are as a family and learn to embrace and love us how we are and not how I had hoped we were to be.
All families are different but I think as long as one person in that family walks with God beside them and leans on His help, strength and wisdom that its enough of constant to bring the family together in whatever way that looks like for them.
So I've let my idol of the perfect, blended family go and now learning to get to know, care for and love the blended family that is real before me.
It hasn't been easy and is not easy and it will get harder before the good fruit can be seen but I'm standing firm in place holding Jesus' hand along the way.
Even in the waiting god can work. God can also add changes and blessings during the waiting period of another unanswered pray. God has not dismissed that He is working on the answer for me. He is just strengthening my faith.
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THE PERFECT FAMILY!! WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE?
IS IT A MOTHER THAT WATCHES HOW NO ONE SITS DOWN AT THE TABLE TOGETHER TO EAT DINNER?
IS IT WHEN EVERYONE IS SCATTERED? IS IT WHEN ALL THE KIDS ARE AT THEIR FRIENDS HOUSE ALL WEEKEND AND HARDLY HOME?
IS IT JUST THE MOTHER GOING TO CHURCH?
IS IT WHEN THE KIDS SEEM TO ONLY GO TO YOUTH GROUP?
YES! ITS ALL OF THAT AND MORE
EVERY FAMILY IS DIFFERENT AND NOT PERFECT TO THE OUTSIDE BUT PERFECT FOR THE INSIDE OF WHAT GOD IS DOING IN EACH.
Tuesday, February 17, 2015
Giving God's Grace
This morning in bible study we were talking about grace. We are doing our study on the book One Way Love by Tullian Tchividjian (Billy Grahams's grandson) Any way while Laura was talking and and others were sharing their stories of grace is when God opened my heart a little more on the issue with how hard it is to love the difficult in my life. (one being my step-son)
God helps me to give grace to Dillon, everyday! God has given grace to Dillon through so many people in his life that has crossed his path while making negative choices. There are times I'm baffled at what I see unfolds right in front of me. As there are times when my own children look in and wonder about how I can keep forgiving and starting fresh with Dillon. I'ts all by God's Grace.
I have come to accept (which here again is God) that God has a purpose for Dillon's life. He must with all that Dillon is continued to be given despite how he is. God knows. God will use Dillon and others around him for a grand, amazing purpose.....so there really is hope. Yes, I have doubted some and often questioned without understanding what that is. But I don't have to know what that purpose is, in order to give grace through God.
Realizing this today has made things a little clearer, a little less boggled to understand.....that Dillon's life will be transformed by grace.
I find myself making a mental note of this so that I can remind myself more than once so that it will keep me in line with always trusting God and allowing Him to use me in Dillon's life and others using grace to bring him closer to God one day.
This was written on a page in the book: The one-way love of God meets us in our failures. Our failures make His one-way love that much more glorious.
(I wrote in my notes: I find it hard to give grace to Dillon at times, I fail but because I fail God can give me grace so that I can give grace to Dillon. With God's help I can and will give grace.
God helps me to give grace to Dillon, everyday! God has given grace to Dillon through so many people in his life that has crossed his path while making negative choices. There are times I'm baffled at what I see unfolds right in front of me. As there are times when my own children look in and wonder about how I can keep forgiving and starting fresh with Dillon. I'ts all by God's Grace.
I have come to accept (which here again is God) that God has a purpose for Dillon's life. He must with all that Dillon is continued to be given despite how he is. God knows. God will use Dillon and others around him for a grand, amazing purpose.....so there really is hope. Yes, I have doubted some and often questioned without understanding what that is. But I don't have to know what that purpose is, in order to give grace through God.
Realizing this today has made things a little clearer, a little less boggled to understand.....that Dillon's life will be transformed by grace.
I find myself making a mental note of this so that I can remind myself more than once so that it will keep me in line with always trusting God and allowing Him to use me in Dillon's life and others using grace to bring him closer to God one day.
This was written on a page in the book: The one-way love of God meets us in our failures. Our failures make His one-way love that much more glorious.
(I wrote in my notes: I find it hard to give grace to Dillon at times, I fail but because I fail God can give me grace so that I can give grace to Dillon. With God's help I can and will give grace.
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