Smiles in the Mix

Its crazy great how happy joyous times can sneak in and get mixed up in the daily frustrations of life. My oldest daughter and I have been butting heads some.  Its been over little things too.  There have been times that I've been firm and after time to cool down she comes to me ready to move on in a positive way.

For example we had gotten irritated at each other over my view of what had happened between her and a friend.  Later she came down and said she was going to the bank.  She came home and tossed her money on the table in front of me and said that she was ready for me to help her with starting her own envelope system.  ( a visual way for her to see where her money goes and to save for the things she needs to take care)  I was thrilled, it had been a few weeks since we had talked about it.  In that moment things were good and we accomplished something.

In the next moment I'm not sure what happened but I said something that sent her upstairs frustrated with me.

Later she came down to give me a hug and ask me to make her a quesadilla.

The other day she was in a silly mood and she asked me to come into her room....she wanted me to join her in sucking helium out of balloon she had so we could talk funny.  I've never really done that and didn't really want to.  She went first and started to sing a silly song with her voice sounding funny.  Then she made me do it and she had a big smile on her face and was laughing so hard.  It turned out that I had fun with her, laughing and smiling.

Then there there was the moment this week that she wanted to drive us to the store and she said that she wanted to play the music that she likes to listen to, she said that she wanted to let me into a part of her.

(I've always liked music, I remember being her age and able to find a song for every mood I was in.....it was like music was a way of communicating with my emotions  I could be the real me without showing it to others.)  I noticed a little of that with my daughter.  The music she played was upbeat and happy, it made her move with joy and smile with a light happy heart.  It reminded me of when she was a little girl.  Its hard to explain but I did get a little glimpse of her and who she is becoming in the music she shared.

So all this to say is that I continue to see how God takes me through my day with ups and downs but always smiles and joys in  the mix!  So thankful

(now I'm not saying it was easy....by no means...I was just as frustrated at times as she was and had hurt feelings but with God's help we got through to the next moment and always came out loving each other)