I had a great time hanging out with my friend. However I never thought I would gain some insight into things with my husband and I in regards to communication. I mentioned a few things to her thinking I was right in the way I was thinking and that she would agree with me. It seems to help us feel good at times when we have someone on "our side". (obviously we are forgetting that Jesus is on our side) But instead she laughed and laughed some more and then would say how funny I was. Well I was confused at first and felt a little odd, but despite those feelings of not totally understanding what was going on I also found myself laughing too.
She would then explain why she was laughing and her thoughts on the topic that had been brought up by me. A huge click of a light bulb could be heard in my head as she spoke. (you know those aww ahh moments that you all of a sudden see things clearer now) This went on for most of the time we were together.
In the end we didn't find a t-shirt for our friend, but a gold colored scarf instead. We laughed a lot and I realized that I just need to be silent most of the time. Well when I thought about it I struggled with it because I knew I would have a hard time being quite at times. Don't get me wrong I know I can talk and need to talk at times.
The times I'm talking about are the ones that I don't take time to "think before speaking", the ones I'm quick to react to because I'm frustrated or have hurt feelings or felt mis-understood. Those are the moments that I need to say to myself "be quite please". I take things my husband says the wrong way that he never meant for me to take the way I did. (which he doesn't understand after I try to explain where I was coming from, now I see why) I read too much into what was said making it more than what it should have been. My good intentions of trying to communicate in a good way have back fired for so long that I really just need to BE QUITE! Think of all the craziness I could stop with my emotions, frustrations and things if I would just not over think things at times and be silent!
Proverbs 31:26
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and loving instruction is on her tongue."
James 1:19
This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger
1Peter 5:14 "greet one another with a a kiss of love"
Other quotes I found:
"Healthy communication is the lifeblood of love. A relationship will only be as good as its communication"
Father I want to please you and encourage others with the words I speak. Transform my mind and fill my mouth with words that honor and please you. Basically Lord help to keep my mouth shut when needed. Help me just take the words in and not put more than what is needed for that moment. Lord you know how I like to communicate and talk well help me do less of it when needed and then use my skill when its really really needed. :)
Side note: The next morning- My husband laughed when I shared some of my conversation that I had with my friend yesterday. I knew then that he agreed and thought that "be quite please" would be a good idea at times too. I smiled and told him that I loved him and he chuckled and said that he loved me too and gave me a little a kiss.
I sat there with light bulbs clicking on in my head knowing I had the right idea.......
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